For those of you who know me, and you don't even have to know me well to know this, you're aware of the fact that I am childfree. I decide to use the term "childfree" and not "childless" because being "less" of something implies that you don't have what you desire. I have no desire to have children, therefore I am free of them (and quite happily, I might add).
If you want to come on here and debate about why having kids is the "greatest thing you've ever done" and how your life just wouldn't be complete without them, save your time. I've heard it all. Accept the fact that your lifestyle is just as much for you as mine is for me. I'm quite pleased to *NOT* say that having children has been my greatest accomplishment in life.
I was lucky enough to find a man who shares my lifestyle choice. I really don't remember specifically talking about the kid issue before we were married. It's like we just started our life together and the subject or desire to have children never really fit into that life. I know it's probably something we should have discussed BEFORE we got married, and maybe we did and I just don't remember, but for the most part, it wasn't really a big issue. Maybe we had that much of a connection to just kind of "know".... ya know? Unfortunately, society, my doctor, and some of my family aren't quite as understanding. When people find out I'm 31, married, and have no kids, they think I'm some sort of freak of nature. They look at me like I'm nuts. "You mean you don't want kids?!"
Yep. That's what I said.
It's generally not as accepted in life for females my age to not have the desire to bring at least one child into this world. It's just not "normal". The last time I was at my GYN appointment, we were discussing kids. When I told her I didn't want any, she said (and I quote)....."you have a good 5-10 years of fertility left, so maybe you'll change your mind".
Seriously?
I mean, for the 31 years I've been on this earth, I've never once said, or even MENTIONED that I might one day want kids. What the hell is going to change in 5-10 years?
My family is starting to come around and accept the fact that I will never have any. My parents have long ago came to the understanding. Other family members, not so much. I was told at our last Christmas gathering that I better have kids or else I'll be alone when I get old with no one to take care of me. Again I say....
Seriously?!
Maybe by the time I'm 60 they'll see how serious I am.
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